Friday, June 4th, 2010
Smothering her with your love and attention immediately after ending the courtship is a bad idea and can be just as devastating to the relationship as neglecting her. Instead you need to take a balanced approach such as advocated in the EX2 System and other get ex back style guides, that allows her attraction for you to grow rather then trying to somehow force it. In any case, the chances are that your emotions are still disturbed, and that you need to let them settle down a little before drawing any conclusions about the future direction of any potential relationship.
Hopefully if your ex sees changes in you they’ll be very receptive to giving things another try. Hopefully love was there at one point (and still is) and this love was the very foundation of a successful relationship. Certain events took place, mistakes may have been made that started to weaken that foundation, but rest assured that you can rebuild.
Couples fight more when they are completely stressed out, and they don’t have anyone to take it out on but themselves and each other. Unfortunately, this sort of situation usually ends up in divorce or separation. It is a little prior to this that it is still very feasible to easily save the relationship, as both parties will commonly still be living together. And then you can get a product like “Save My Marriage Today” which is specifically written for couples on the verge of breaking up who want to step back from the brink, and salvage the marriage. But even after this moment has passed, and things appear to be irreconcilable, in reality there is still plenty of hope of turning things around. It is simply a fact though that different strategies then need to be used, and that it may be a little trickier to turn things around.
All of the advice that you can find incidentally does not neccessarily mean you should get your ex back it has to be said (though it would help if you wanted to), but rather because it makes no sense to carry the sins of the past into the future. So if you can become a better person as a result of a breakup, then it is essential that you seize upon this as a great opportunity and see the good in it, by learning more about yourself, your motivations and your actions in relationships as well as realising what that behaviour has already cost you. For example you may realise that you have an urge to turn your friends into your girlfriends, but are not executing very well. If so then check out this friend into girlfriend product that can help. If you have another problem, then read up on that and get it fixed.
Once you’ve re-established your self confidence and self esteem, you will be ready to once again approach your ex with the intention of getting back together. Chances are that your emotions are still disturbed. Anger and a sense of loss pay the key role in the mind of a heartbroken individual, and even if you don’t think of yourself in quite those dramatic terms, it is nevertheless true that a relationship breakup is amongst the most traumatic experiences that anyone can go through. Take things one step at a time, and take the opportunity to assess exactly where you are in your emotional journey with your ex, and where you would like to be.
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Thursday, May 20th, 2010
Can It Be True ? Is It Possible?
Before we spend time debating that question – Let’s answer it right out in front – - -
YES – YES - YES
Our Delimma Is How do we wrap our emotions and brain around that premise – so we can really call on this wonderful, magnificent power to enrich our lives?
To approach it logically — – - (there is no real logic – just knowledge that it does indeed work)– – - let’s assume that like everything else – including our muscles, our mind, etc. works best – when used often – actually, unceasingly.
Does it mean that we wish for good results sporadically, and get them – - – - – - -Probably not - -
But, if we get away from the detached `want`, and develop into a `habit` – a way of thinking – It does indeed work -
As with any other attainment – basketball, stitching, playing the piano, etc. the act of developing this great gift – is simply a matter of doing, believing, and doing and believing some more – - – - – - – - - until it becomes a way of life.
Tons of people try to use `The Secret`, and many have experienced great – GREAT – changes in their lives; but others, I suspect the majority , wonder why it didn’t work for them -
Well, like the skills mentioned above – basketball, sewing, playing the piano, etc., it calls for the personal mentoring , or at least the proper cultivation of the trade.
You can give a talented individual a basketball – and he/she can practice everyday; but, without the proper mentoring or extra help of some kind – he/she may never develop – and if development does indeed come – the odds are that it won’t develop at the degree it should – or in a sensible time frame, if at all – -
So, what are we saying?
The simple answer is – - – - – - this way of thinking – (attracting good things to your life) is the most powerful force in universe - But, most of us need a mentor
Let’s face it – it is an entirely new way of thinking.
For the Believer – - (The Bible is full of promises – such as – `If you shall ask anything of the Father, he will give it to you in my name. Hitherto have ye asked nothing in my name: ask, and ye shall receive it, that your joy may be made full ) John: 16:23,24-
For a non-believer – — – - Guess what? It still works - - 
I ask you, friend, do you need any more proof than this – that there is indeed a poweful force – ready for you – - ??
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Monday, May 10th, 2010
At first glance, would you be able to tell the real gold from a fake one?
Just like majority of people, you probably won’t be able to tell since both have the same look, unless you have prior knowledge that one is real.
The same thing can be said of failure. In one glance, all failures might look the same because these lead to negative consequences and emotions. It is possible that hidden among these failures is one disguised as a nugget of success.
You have read in many e-zines, articles, and books that failure is a part of success. Failure is often camouflaged as success and acts as a guide towards success. This article emphasizes that failure is inevitable in your trek to accomplishment. In fact, it is the critical ingredient to success.
How do you deal with this critical ingredient?
Actually, all failures have the potential to become success stories. It is just a matter of using failure to your advantage. In this case, practice makes perfect. As you encounter more failures, you will learn what works and what does not.
For each failure, you are one step closer to success. This is the reason why you must not give up easily should failure occur. Intense belief in your capabilities motivates you to continue in pursuing what you are after.
You must not be afraid of failure; think of failure as a tool for success. Use failure as a tool in digging your mine of success. “So what if I fail! I may have failed now but that doesn’t mean I am completely abandoning my success goal. More failures? Bring them on! More failures mean more lessons that can be learned.” This is the attitude you must keep in your mind and heart to keep you going for the goal.
What if your resources are all used up? What if you are going bankrupt and accumulating debts? What if your assets are turning into liabilities? This is where your determination and intense belief in yourself come to the picture. If you sincerely believe you are going to make it to the top even if you have to pass through scourges of failure, go for it!
Make the most out of failures and learn from them. Try to keep track of your failures by listing them on a piece of paper. Use this list to find out the different causes of failures, and solutions you have used to overcome them.
Ask yourself: What did I do wrong? How can I do better? Asking difficult questions forces you to maximize the golden learning opportunity present in every failure.
Imagine yourself caught in the middle of a storm. What do you usually do?
When you are in the middle of a storm, you stop whatever you are doing and try to protect what you still have. You wait out the storm in a safe place and wait for the sun to shine. Amidst any turbulence, you must have the confidence that you will survive.
Failure is like a storm. It passes swiftly. It provides the opportunity for you to stop to think why, how, and where you went wrong. The solution you are looking for is the sunshine after the storm. You consolidate your resources, backtrack a little, do some adjustments, and then continue pursuing your objective.
Remember, all failures have the potential to become success stories. It is just a matter of using failure to your advantage. Failures make you wiser and may help you detect that hidden golden nugget of success.
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